Welcome to

Oh Gay Cupid!

Autostraddle’s OkCupid series. We obtain plenty of questions on Formspring relating to online dating sites, therefore we ultimately got a number of individuals with each other to fairly share it.


While OkCupid isn’t really really the only online dating site for queers, and possibly isn’t really even the most useful, it does be seemingly usually the one we make use of normally. We’re going to end up being speaking about all things OkC, including meeting friends, first dates, pages, fuck-ups, letdowns plus. Even though itis the ‘OkCupid Series,’ guidance provided within collection could easily be used to the online dating service.

Oh Gay Cupid! drawings by
Rory Midhani

Its Monday! Do you have a night out together this evening? Are you wanting a date this evening? The trend is to jump on your computer and discover one? If you are everything like my neurotic self, getting an internet go out calls for two days of
thoroughly modifying your own profile
, 2 months of cherry selecting the area’s choices, a couple weeks of nonchalantly bantering back and forth with your possible day and two hrs of debating the merits for the urban area’s various drink slingers. And that is all well and great if you wish to fulfill somebody prior to the end of 2013, but

today

is Date Night! You merely don’t possess time for this crap.

Just what if you were to get rid of your entire preconceptions of tips easily satisfy anyone as well as only found somebody? Like noticed a stranger over the net and asked them on a night out together without knowing their unique Google search record? A bit more
A/S/L
and a little much less  »
Will you teach your children to think in Santa?
 » I’m slightly ashamed to confess exactly how many users I’ve missed when I watched they appreciated a motion picture we hated, are not as enthused by meals when I ended up being or happened to be « too into » politics.

You and You will find an arbitrarily metered match compatibility of lower than 98%? This shit’s never ever going to work!

There’s something become said for a little bit of puzzle that is certainly what
Nuts Blind Date
is attempting to embrace. CBD is OkCupid’s foray inside field of immediate mobile dating. Fuck creating the most wonderful profile. See a person? Satisfy that individual! While Grindr gets the industry cornered in terms of gay male mobile hook-up programs,
almost always there is place for enhancement regarding the ladies
.

CBD was
beautifully made with women in head
, but what does which means that?

Is-it green? Will it sparkle? Will it distribute candy and Kleenex basically get stood up?

Well yes, discover parts of the application that are green and there’s a confetti-like motif on some pages, but sorry, it’s not

that

best. It just requires an alternate approach which you’ll learn quickly enough. As with every great circumstances, you must start someplace.

Step one. Create that Visibility

Four questions. You are able to deal with four concerns. Especially when one of them is actually, « what exactly is your title? » (Please don’t overthink that one.) Similar to the OkC user interface, it’ll admire in case you are merely trying to find females.

Action 2. Know your own timetable.

Will you be arranged are bored stiff tomorrow? Okay you could continue a date rather.

Action 3. Know Your Area

Choose your favorite site and recommend a night out together indeed there. It is possible to suggest times in other metropolises if you should be will be travelling in the future week.

Step 4. Get a Date

The software’ll permit other date-seekers in your neighborhood understand that you are readily available. Both of you feel coffee on a Tuesday? Score! Start a chat an hour or so just before get together to make certain neither people will flake and you are all set.

Wait this app sets you up with a random stranger? That sound sketchy as fuck!

Endure unbeliever, let us notice the app completely for a moment. When CBD keeps women in mind, it really is trying to remember protection. Even if you have no idea lots about the individual you’re going to embark on a night out together with, you’ll know somewhat about

where

you are going. CBD makes use of FourSquare’s methods so you/they can simply suggest times at frequented areas. When you are picking the venue, just click the > to get into the FourSquare entry and verify you are without a doubt planning to a cafe and never Hal’s back-alley Murder Emporium.

Taking yet another page from FourSquare’s concept, you can test your own big date and the software when it’s more than.

Do you meet The One? Were they actually a fifty-year old man? Had been they worth a second time?

You may have a chance to give a financial Kudos toward application for a successful or not-so-successful big date. But simply like your well-meaning great aunt will get offended as soon as you won’t start thinking about going on a romantic date because of the wonderful boy she found from the pavement, CBD will get in a little bit of a huff any time you overlook the choices.

Ignore unnecessary dates? Won’t admit so it helped you discover a success?

You will observe that the « offered Dates » gets less and less populated. However, any time you treat it perfectly it will hold placing you up-and hopefully discover a significant date.

For the spirit of having things completed, the software places lots of time limitations on you. It will probably

only

let you arrange times when it comes to future few days. It’ll

merely

enable you to talk for an hour before your go out.

In an unusual task of technology, this software actually manages to get visitors to meet offline. While that sounds like many pressure, it really is a little bit of a comfort to an overthinker. You only need to do not have the chance to psyche yourself of a date. You cannot spend forty mins daily creating a witty yet careful a reaction to, « what exactly is your own favourite color? » In addition, you are unable to get into daydreaming overdrive and create ridiculously inflated expectations of those based off of

their own

witty but considerate responses. Y’all only will end up being yourselves.

Considering that its such a fussy software, does it work?

Pardon me for an additional while I put away my matchmaking crystal baseball and take out my fortune telling crystal baseball alternatively. CBD provides a benefit over mobile online dating apps since it can piggyback off of the popularity of OkCupid. Possible miss out the five strategies you got in crafting your CBD profile and employ the OkC one rather. The programs tend to be connected to each other, allowing you to choose the method that you’d prefer to satisfy some one that time.
Feel just like a-game of forty concerns
? Create OkC. Simply want to show popcorn with a stranger? Start CBD.

If idea of satisfying someone and conversing with all of them one-on-one nevertheless appears also odd, CBD may not be for your family. Should you decide’d quite visit a gay club and desire you fulfill somebody about dancing flooring,
it is possible to however utilize technologies to get that party
. But in any event, you will still need to pull it and start conversing with someone any time you
actually ever expect to discover date
.

Hopefully that doesn’t sound too insane.